Gossip Girl B

Reader Question: Advice For Gossip Girl B

B the gossip girl — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 07:01:52 GMT

Okay Gossipers I’m going to put a personnel question out there because I need some fantastic advice and who better to turn to then you lovely ladies…..uh and few handsome gentlemen.

So I’m in a relationship that’s hit some speed bumps along the way. We’ve been together about two months and things fell into place very quickly. Everything just clicked, talk about having warm fuzzies. Then I had a little freak out, pushed him away, and then realized what an idiot I was. So we started to work that out and then he pulled away. He was like a new person and I was heartbroken.

I found out he had been flirting with other girls via text, hence one of my other reader questions. He said it would never happen again, but less then three weeks later it has happened again. However this time he stepped it up and was out in a group with the girl he was text flirting with. This time the text flirts included “I don’t have a girlfriend” and wonderful little phrases along those lines.

I was hurt, mad, but most of all betrayed. He’d lied to my face and was actually out with this other woman. Now keep in mind please that nothing happened….or he says it didn’t. He promises nothing like that will ever happen again. No more text flirting or hanging out with other women. So now 24 hours into me giving him another chance I’m terrified.I do care for him very much, but I'm so worried about getting hurt again. I have faith in his words, but there is this tiny voice in my head that just wont shut up. So that bring me to you gals.

How do I know if he’s going to betray my trust again? Is it worth giving him another shot? A friend say that loving him isn’t worth it, is that true? Am I supposed to check his phone every time I see him? I don’t want to invade his privacy like that. What do you think, Gossip Girl B needs some help!

Reader Question: An Act Of Betrayal or No Biggie?

B the gossip girl — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 03:33:55 GMT

So girls we all do, no matter what our intentions, at some point we are going to snoop through our gentlemen friends phone. The question is what do you do if you find that Mr. Darn Near Perfect has been flirting it up with another “lady” via text land? Is this a forgivable act? Should you call it quits now? Do you confront him or simply act like you saw nothing? We want to know, what do you think?

Reader Question: Oddest Thing You've Ever Done Around A Guy

B the gossip girl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:52:07 GMT

Ladies we want to know: What is the strangest, most embarrassing thing you’ve done in front of a boyfriend, crush, etc.??

To keep it fair I will tell you mine. I was crashing with a guy, our relationship status is rather undefined. Anyway, so I partly woke up and thought something was in my throat. So I tried to pull whatever was in my throat out. Then I realized, woah I am half sleeping right now what the heck am I doing. I open my eyes and he was just looking at me. The only thing I could say was, “Um why are you looking at me,” even though I so knew why. He was looking at me because I was sticking my hand in my mouth trying to get an imaginary object out. Yes, I felt like a total crazy girl. I guess if he reads this maybe he will have a clue what the heck I was doing. Okay I told you mine, now spill!

"He's Probably Just Not That Into You" Gossip Girl B Style

B the gossip girl — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 12:05:43 GMT

1. If he goes more then 24 hours without returning a text message or a phone call… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

2. If you go to his place, see his roomies, but never get introduced to his roomies… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

3. If he never makes plans with you in advance… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

4. If he says that you guys will hang out later that day/night and then he goes MIA… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

5. If he will sleep with you, but not sleep by you… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

6. If he calls you “Katie” when your name is “Kelly”… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

7. If he only wants to hang out with you at night, after midnight, and he’s a 9-5 guy… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

8. If he has pics of another girl all over his room, computer, cell, and MySpace. One he probably has a girlfriend and two… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

9. If he pulls away from basic affectionate touches i.e. hand holding, face touching, etc… “He’s probably just not that into you“.

10. If you see him out at a local watering hole, like a bar, and he about breaks his ankle to avoid you. Or if he acts like he doesn’t know who you are… “He’s probably just not that into you”.

(Distributor of Image:Warner Bros. Pictures/New Line Cinema)

Relationship Quote For Ladies To Live By

B the gossip girl — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 17:43:16 GMT

This relationship quote is from a gal pal of mine named Melissa. Melissa and I were chatting this evening and she said the following quote that I think every Gossiper out there needs to live by. She said:

“Just because you paid the cover, doesn’t mean you get VIP access”

So ladies, listen very closely really fast. The next time there is some hot guy that is causing your heart to flutter, remember they need to earn VIP status. VIP status is not just a given. Make him work for it a little bit, the chase is half the fun.

Gossiper Question: Are You A Relationship Reject??

B the gossip girl — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 06:33:41 GMT

I want to know if there is anyone else out there that does this. I'm starting to think that I'm a relationship reject. I am so accustomed to being in relationships that revolve around arguments I don't know how to handle being in a relationship where everything is okay...scratch that. I don't know how to be in a relationship where everything is perfect. It is just a matter of time before the other stiletto drops, right? So I ask you Gossipers: Do you sabotage relationships to avoid getting hurt? Do you pick fights because you are so used to fighting? How do you avoid destroying a great relationship because you are scared? What is your relationship hang up?

How To Avoid The, "Big Fat Mouth Remorse Zone"

B the gossip girl — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 04:25:14 GMT

So let me set up the scenario for you. You and Mr. Love Muffin are hanging out being all lovey dovey and you are totally wrapped up in the warm fuzzy moment. Then before you know it all those little things that you think, but never say start to pour out of your well glossed lips. Before you know it you have spilled every little gushy thought you have ever had about this guy since the two of you met. Think of this as cute little word vomit that just wouldn't stop.

So now Prince Charming has gone home and you are left recapping the evening. All the adorable moments are over shadowed but the huge glaring fact that you just said a half hour worth of things you probably shouldn't have. What have you done? You shouldn't have told him that you had a dream about him in the shower with water streaming down his muscled arms or about how you are pretty sure you love him...maybe. So now you are left to sit in bed feeling like a total doofus while Mr. Hunk-a-Hunk-a Burnin Love is goodness knows where, thinking goodness know what. That little pit growing in your stomach, don't count on it going away any time soon, oh no. At this point you have just crossed into, "Big Fat Mouth Remorse Zone", and you are going to be in this pretty pretty place for awhile.

So being in the "Big Fat Mouth Remorse Zone" isn't fun, so please allow me to offer you some suggestions on how to avoid ending up here. Try any of these before you decide to spill the beans to Mr. Hot Stuff:

1. Write your feelings down in a journal. Quick, easy, and to the point.

2. Write how you are feeling in a letter, get online and find an address in another state, and mail the letter to that address. Don't put your return address, this is just a way to have your feelings heard anonymously. Plus imagine the look on the persons face when they read this random letter.

3. Talk to one of your great gal pals about how you feel about your boy toy. She wont mind hearing about how sexy your guy looks when he passes out after a night of drinking.

4. Curl up with you dog, cat, insert other type of animal here... and tell the little fuzz ball about how dreamy you find your boyfriends shoulder blades.

5. Lastly you could go on a long walk and talk it out. Nothing wrong with babbling to yourself while walking along a wooded path. I doubt the trees will judge you to much if you decide to proclaim your love to someone.

10 Things That Make Your Gal Pals Better Then Your Boyfriend

B the gossip girl — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 08:52:09 GMT

By living with a gal pal you get to double your wardrobe and shoe options. By living with the boyfriend you double the amount of time your would normally spend cleaning.

Gal pals will gladly curl up on the sofa with you and cry like a baby over a chick flick. A boyfriend will make you watch movies like “Death Race”, which was an awful movie by the way.

Your gal pals will help you primp for hours for a special occasion. Helping to make sure every hair is in place and your cheekbones are perfectly highlighted. A boyfriend will hog the mirror, spend more time primping then you do, and all while you are stuck using your compact mirror to get ready.

The best gal pals will guy bash when you are venting and gush when Mr. Dream Boat does something charming. The boyfriend thinks he’s cool and super fantastic all the time. Then when you suggest otherwise he puts his fingers in his ears and says, “lalalala not listening”.

You can take part in harmless hot guy watching with your gal pals, nothing wrong with admiring a guys hard work at the gym. If your boyfriend does this…..there could be a major problem brewing.

A gal pal will be the first to tell you how adorable you look in your new jeans or how fantastic your new haircut is. Boyfriends are oblivious to just about anything unless you are naked, no chance of cute compliments here.

Gal pals will sit for hours over a meal and gossip about everything from Brits tour to who your ex just hooked up with. Your boyfriend will spend hours pretending to listen to you over dinner while he stares over your shoulder at the college basketball game on TV.

Gal pals do nice things for you when you are having a rotten day. Things like make you a card on a sticky note, take you to lunch where you order half the menu, or take you for a mani at the local spa. Boyfriends are oblivious to the fact you are having a bad day and if they catch on they always assume they did something.

Your gal pals know what stories of yours to share with other people, the secrets though are locked down like a bank vault. The boy toy doesn’t always catch on that something’s are pillow talk only and not to be shared with others. Silence is golden boys.

Lastly your gal pals are always there, through thick and thin they have your back. Guys may come and go, but your girl friends are priceless and timeless. A great gal pal carries a beauty that your wont find anywhere else, it’s just not something you can find in any boyfriend.

(Pic of me and my best gal pal Lora)

Mystery Of The Missing Condom

B the gossip girl — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 23:22:22 GMT

Let’s face it, sex isn’t all orgasms and karma sutra. Sometimes things go down hill and the end result leaves you stressed. I wanted to address one of the pitfalls of sex, sorry for the Debbie Downer Moment, but don’t worry it wont last long. The sex Debbie Downer Moment I am referring to is the moment that Mr. Sexual Dynamo realizes that the trusty condom is MIA.

I personally have not encountered this moment, knock on wood (no pun intended), but a gal pal of mine had this happen not to long ago. She called me in an absolute panic, so it was B to the rescue. If you find yourself in these oh so uncomfortable shoes the first thing you need to do is relax. Yes I understand that this is not the most ideal situation, but losing your cool isn’t going to help anything. A Gossip Girl never loses her cool.

So the condom is MIA, let’s rule out that it’s not somewhere else first. Check the bed thoroughly, don’t go flipping the blankets around like a mad woman. Slow down and be a little tedious. If you tare the sheets off like you are crazed, the missing condom could end up flying behind your dresser, while you continue to search. Also make sure you check the floor and any clothing you or Romeo may be wearing. If you’ve ruled out that the condom is not part of the outside world, it’s time for phase two.

Start phase two by lying down relaxing, if your all tense this phase is going to be more difficult. You or Mr. Dream Boat are going to have to trace the inner walls of your vagina. Slow and steady wins the race on this one girls. If you find the condom, remove it. If you don’t find it there are other options. You can use running water to flush into your vagina to loosen the condom if it has been stuck on your vaginal wall. On rare occasions a condom can become attached to the vaginal wall and a doctor will need to remove it for you.

So you’ve found the condom, tucked away in your vagina, at this point me telling you to relax may be a wasted effort. At this point there are a couple of things you need to consider. The first is the pregnancy factor. Were you using another form of birth control, or was the condom you only line of defense against the little spermy invaders? If you are taking an oral birth control and the condom was back up, you are probably okay, if not you may want to take some further precautions.

Let me preface these precautions with saying, you need to take them as soon as you discover the condom was in your vagina. You don’t want to wait hours to take action, your mani and pedi will have to wait. One precaution you can take is to use a foam spermicidal agent. There is also the option to get the Plan B pill, which you can get from you pharmacist without a script. Aside from pregnancy there is now the potential STD risk, you may want to consider following up with your doctor to receive a test. This may be a little bit on the thorough side, but better safe then sorry if you ask me.

At the end of the sexually stressful day, there are things you can do if you ever find yourself in this position. Remember to keep your cool, and to take the time to be thorough. To help prevent you ending up searching for a condom, ask the boy toy to hold the condom as he pulls out. You can make this process easier, by relaxing your vagina muscles as he does. It may also help to apply lube to the penis prior to putting the condom on. Take these simple steps to help prevent the Mystery Of The Missing Condom, and if it does happen, you know how to handle it.

A Sexy Time Did You Know Fact

B the gossip girl — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 12:50:31 GMT

Ever wonder why so many people enjoy making love to candle light? The reason behind that is the pupils dilate in candle light, which sends a green flag to the sexy part of your brain. The sexy part in your brain then kicks into lovemaking mode. Pretty interesting huh? Yeah it all goes back to our basic animal instincts. Plus who doesn’t look fabulous in candle light?

Six Sexy Things To Do With A Tie

B the gossip girl — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 09:58:40 GMT

With the Holiday Season also comes holiday parties. I don’t tend to have dates that like to dress up, mention a tie, and they develop a nervous twitch. Then the pleading starts, “Please baby, you look so handsome in a tie,” you say fluttering your plump eyelashes at him. “Yeah, uh, I don’t think so babe. It chokes me,” he says tossing the tie back in the closet. So what do you do now? You could get angry, you could beg, or you can take charge without him even knowing it. It’s time to reveal to your man all the sexy things you’d like to do with that tie, when he takes it off at the end of the night. Try some of these things and your man will be begging to wear a tie.

1. Take his tie and one extra tie, and tie your man to the bed. Men like women who take charge.

2. Strip down to you bra and panties, take his tie, and use it was a sexy prop while you give him a lap dance. Drape it around his neck to pull his head into you or trace the tie down your body to bring his attention to different parts of your bod.

3. Take the tie and trace it lightly across is nude body paying special attention to sensitive areas, BUT stay away from his member. Stimulate him with touch on the rest of his body and you will have him begging.

4. Encourage your man to tie you up, feeling really adventurous, have him take another tie and blindfold you. Now a word to the wise, only let someone you really really know tie you up. I don’t want to hear about you getting tied up and left for days until finally your mom comes looking for you. That would be embarrassing for all parties involved.

5. Use the tie as a blindfold and then try some of my tricks to do with ice. He will be a very very happy boy.

6. Tie yourself to your man, wrist to wrist. Then see how many positions you can get into while joined at the wrist. This is sexy and also funny. Great for couples that don’t take themselves to serious.

Sexy Ice Play

B the gossip girl — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 23:42:15 GMT

Frosty's Figure Eight

While you're giving him oral action, use an ice cube to trace a figure eight on his groin or inner thigh. Try to perform both motions at the same pace to make the experience as smooth and seamless as possible. The simultaneous opposing sensations will give him a beyond blissful buzz.

The Icy Minty Fresh Breeze

Alright gals this may take a little practice before you get it right. You are going to need 2 things: an ice cube and an Altoid. I would recommend the Altoid they give the tingle we are looking for. You know how when you pop an Altoid in your mouth it makes you mouth tingle, well it will do the same thing for your mans man parts. So suck on on the Altoid for a second to release the oils from the mint and then put about half an ice cube in your mouth, pushed over to one side, and put the Altoid on the opposite side. Now you can use that icy mint mouth of yours to give your man a special treat.

The Icy Peeks

Take an ice cube and hold it between your teeth. Now rub the ice over your guys nipples, when his nipple are nice and cold take the ice out of your mouth and lick his nipples. The contrast from the cold to warm will drive him insane. Note: you would probably like this one two so encourage your guy to try it out on you.

The Ice Queen

Visual, visual, visual. One of the fastest things to get your guy all hot and bothered is to entice his visual senses. Take an ice cube and trace it down your body while you man watches. Pay special attention to those naughty places that his eyes will naturally want to go to. Get one of those places nice and cold and ask him to warm it up for you.

The No Touchy Game

This can have you in the lead or him in the lead. Fun!! Take an ice cube and trace it all over his body. Paying special attention to his sensitive areas. Lightly blow along the line of moisture left behind from the ice cube. You will have him squirming and begging for a little warming up.

I Want To Be Wooed

B the gossip girl — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 03:10:32 GMT

Maybe deep down inside I'm a hopless romantic. Maybe it's because the last time a guy said something truly romantic to me I was 18. I find myself hearing songs, reading books, and watching shows, thinking, "Oh my gosh I wish someone would say that to me". So for all my guy readers, pick one of these romantic quotes and use it with the lady in your life (or come up with one of your own). The world could use a little more romance.

"Look after my heart, I've left it with you" from Stephenie Meyer Twilight Series

"Cause I think you were born to be a queen." from Brian Sizensky's Born A Queen

"Before you, Bella, my life was like a moonless night. Very Dark, but there were stars--points of light and reason...And then you shot across my sky like a meteor. Suddenly everything was on fire; there was brilliancy, there was beauty. When you were gone, when the meteor had fallen over the horizen, everything went black. Nothing had changed, but my eyes were blinded by the light. I couldn't see the stars anymore. And there was no more reason for anything." from Stephenie Meyer Twilight Series

"Darling you know I think you're some kind of wonderful." from Chris Mann In Between

"There ain't nothin' that I wouldn't do, Go to the ends of the earth for you, Make you happy make your dreams come true, To make you feel my love." from Garth Brooks To Make You Feel My Love

"I love you and that's all I really know" from Taylor Swifts Love Story

"I am just a guy standing in front of a girl asking her to love him." from Notting Hill (yes I tweaked it a little bit)

".....I think I'd miss you even if we'd never met." from The Wedding Date

"I'm all in." from Gilmore Girls

Relationship Food For Thought Part 2 {Lies}

B the gossip girl — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 03:19:51 GMT

So my question for this week is: Is it ever okay to tell a lie to your significant other? Is a lie okay so you can try to avoid a fight or to keep the other person from getting upset? Is a lie okay if it is just a tiny little white lie? Further more can you trust someone who lies to you about little things, wont they lie to you about the big things too? What do you think?

Relationship Food For Thought: Part 1 {Crying}

B the gossip girl — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 21:58:47 GMT

If you cry more then you laugh, are you truly happy in your relationship?