Reader Question: Advice For Gossip Girl B

Okay Gossipers I’m going to put a personnel question out there because I need some fantastic advice and who better to turn to then you lovely ladies…..uh and few handsome gentlemen.

So I’m in a relationship that’s hit some speed bumps along the way. We’ve been together about two months and things fell into place very quickly. Everything just clicked, talk about having warm fuzzies. Then I had a little freak out, pushed him away, and then realized what an idiot I was. So we started to work that out and then he pulled away. He was like a new person and I was heartbroken.

I found out he had been flirting with other girls via text, hence one of my other reader questions. He said it would never happen again, but less then three weeks later it has happened again. However this time he stepped it up and was out in a group with the girl he was text flirting with. This time the text flirts included “I don’t have a girlfriend” and wonderful little phrases along those lines.

I was hurt, mad, but most of all betrayed. He’d lied to my face and was actually out with this other woman. Now keep in mind please that nothing happened….or he says it didn’t. He promises nothing like that will ever happen again. No more text flirting or hanging out with other women. So now 24 hours into me giving him another chance I’m terrified.I do care for him very much, but I'm so worried about getting hurt again. I have faith in his words, but there is this tiny voice in my head that just wont shut up. So that bring me to you gals.

 How do I know if he’s going to betray my trust again? Is it worth giving him another shot? A friend say that loving him isn’t worth it, is that true? Am I supposed to check his phone every time I see him? I don’t want to invade his privacy like that. What do you think, Gossip Girl B needs some help!